What women are supposed to want
What do you think of these statements?
Women gauge their happiness and judge their success by their relationships. Men's happiness and success hinge on their accomplishments.
Men tend to be more tuned in to what is happening today and what needs to be done for a secure future. When women began to enter the work force at an equal pace with men, companies noticed that women were not as concerned about preparing for retirement. This stems from the priority men and women place on the past, present, and future.
Just as a woman needs to feel a man's devotion to her, a man has a primary need to feel a woman's admiration. To admire a man is to regard him with wonder, delight, and approval. A man feels admired when his unique characteristics and talents happily amaze her.
They come straight out of high school textbooks that are being pushed by our government. You see, the Bush administration has been peddling this thing called SPRANS (Special Programs of Regional and National Significance Community-Based Abstinence Education), which dispenses $170 million/year to promote abstinence-only education—health education that specifically and intentionally omits any mention of basic facts about sex and contraception other than "don't do it." As it turns out, though, there's more to them than just federally mandated lacunae: they also are rife with errors, outrageously misleading falsehoods, and a kind of 1950s mentality that treats women as little helpmeets to their hardworkin' men. Download and read Henry Waxman's The Content of Federally Funded Abstinence-Only Education Programs (pdf) to see even more details.
11 of 13 curricula reviewed were full of crap. Some of it is trite nonsense that perpetuates odious stereotypes about men and women…
One book in the "Choosing the Best" series presents a story about a knight who saves a princess from a dragon. The next time the dragon arrives, the princess advises the knight to kill the dragon with a noose, and the following time with poison, both of which work but leave the knight feeling "ashamed." The knight eventually decides to marry a village maiden, but did so "only after making sure she knew nothing about nooses or poison." The curriculum concludes:Moral of the story: Occasional suggestions and assistance may be alright, but too much of it will lessen a man's confidence or even turn him away from his princess.
One curriculum teaches that men are sexually aggressive and lack deep emotions. In a chart of the top five women's and men's basic needs, the curriculum lists "sexual fulfillment" and "physical attractiveness" as two of the top five "needs" in the men's section. "Affection," "Conversation," "Honesty and Openness," and "Family Commitment" are listed only as women's needs. The curriculum teaches: "A male is usually less discriminating about those to whom he is sexually attracted. . . . Women usually have greater intuitive awareness of how to develop a loving relationship."
The same curriculum tells participants: "While a man needs little or no preparation for sex, a woman often needs hours of emotional and mental preparation.
…but it also includes plain lies about basic health and medicine. They claim that 5-10% of women getting abortions will be sterile; that abortions lead to increased risk of mental retardation in subsequent births; that abortions increase the risk of ectopic pregnancies; that women who abort are more prone to suicide. They also promote the silly "life begins at conception" idea.
Here's Waxman's summary of the situation:
- Abstinence-Only Curricula Contain False Information about the Effectiveness of Contraceptives. Many of the curricula misrepresent the effectiveness of condoms in preventing sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. One curriculum says that "the popular claim that ‘condoms help prevent the spread of STDs,' is not supported by the data"; another states that "n heterosexual sex, condoms fail to prevent HIV approximately 31% of the time"; and another teaches that a pregnancy occurs one out of every seven times that couples use condoms. These erroneous statements are presented as proven scientific facts.
- Abstinence-Only Curricula Contain False Information about the Risks of Abortion. One curriculum states that 5% to 10% of women who have legal abortions will become sterile; that "[p]remature birth, a major cause of mental retardation, is increased following the abortion of a first pregnancy"; and that "[t]ubal and cervical pregnancies are increased following abortions." In fact, these risks do not rise after the procedure used in most abortions in the United States.
- Abstinence-Only Curricula Blur Religion and Science. Many of the curricula present as scientific fact the religious view that life begins at conception. For example, one lesson states: "Conception, also known as fertilization, occurs when one sperm unites with one egg in the upper third of the fallopian tube. This is when life begins." Another curriculum calls a 43-day-old fetus a "thinking person."
- Abstinence-Only Curricula Treat Stereotypes about Girls and Boys as Scientific Fact. One curriculum teaches that women need "financial support," while men need "admiration." Another instructs: "Women gauge their happiness and judge their success on their relationships. Men's happiness and success hinge on their accomplishments."
- Abstinence-Only Curricula Contain Scientific Errors. In numerous instances, the abstinence-only curricula teach erroneous scientific information. One curriculum incorrectly lists exposure to sweat and tears as risk factors for HIV transmission. Another curriculum states that "twenty-four chromosomes from the mother and twenty-four chromosomes from the father join to create this new individual"; the correct number is 23.
The Bush Administration: Keeping America Ignorant Since 2001.
Anyone remember when George W. Bush was calling himself the "education president?" I guess now we know what that meant.


GWBush and education: "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." Try to say this using Inago Montoya's accent (from The Princess Bride).